Life, Love, Loss, Loneliness, Loyalty…what does these words have in common….other than they all starting with ‘L’ of course? I would say complexity.
They say life is to live not to suffer. But how many of us live life without suffering? The desperate attempts we make to live life sometimes in return make us suffer brutally. Most of the time we are either in confusion or desperation that we do not see things clearly or think clearly. Our high expectations, ambitious goals and overconfidence trigger pain and suffering when things start falling apart. Some of us always believe everything will be the way we want and do not realize that every thing has two possible outcomes; favourable and unfavourable. We only anticipate the favourable outcome and when it is the unfavourable outcome that arrives we take a blow since we had not been ready for it. Then there is the type that lack confidence. When things continuously go wrong, we conclude that life is going to be in misery forever. The thought itself leads us to misery and we live each day suffering.
Love is a word connected with many other words; trust, understanding, friendship and happiness. How many of us gone through love without trust? Without understanding? Without friendship? Without happiness? Love is a wonderful thing that is unfortunately taken for granted by most of us. Love may not be able to move mountains but still it can generate certain changes in people. At most it can change a person’s entire life. My personal opinion is that love is not just about getting into a relationship, living with the person, having kids etc. Instead it’s about wanting the best for the other person. Sometimes we love those who don’t love us back. Sometimes we love those who we cannot have. Sometimes we find it hard to feel the same way about those who actually love us. One cannot force himself or herself to love someone. On the other hand it is said that love needs conscious commitment in order to sustain. But if it’s only commitment and no love, then is there anything to be sustained at all? What more explanation is needed to illustrate love’s complexity?
Along the path of life we gain things and we lose things. It’s easily said but not widely accepted. Many of us find it impossible to let go of the things we love; people we love. We try so hard to hold on even when we know for sure that we have lost it/them; let it be a break up, death of a loved one, loss of a lifeless property that meant so much to us.
We do not realize that even the most beautiful days eventually have their sunsets. Letting go is not easy but it’s not impossible. Most of us just don’t even give it a try. Sometimes we have to lose someone to get that someone. Sometimes we have to lose something to get that something. When we lose things only we realize how much they have meant to us. While they are there, we merely take them for granted and don’t realize how precious they are until we have let them slip through our fingers. Then at the last moment we struggle to hold on alas only to lose it even more. The more we try to stretch a rubber band the ultimate result will be that at one point it will break. You might tie up the two pieces but it will never be the same old strong band anymore. How many of us realize this before the band is broken?
Each of us is born alone and dies alone, but loneliness is something that we cannot come to terms with. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that one is lonely. At times even when we are all alone we may not feel lonely. However there are times we feel lonely even when we are with a large crowd. The fear of loneliness could even become a mental illness if abnormal and persistent. Some of us have trouble distinguishing between independence and solitude. Loss and loneliness go hand in hand. Most of us who experience loss of something/someone experience loneliness afterwards. How many times have we thought everybody else has this or that but I don’t, everybody else does this or that but I can’t? All of us have experienced it not once or twice but many a times during our short life span.
Loyalty goes a long way with trust and commitment; faithfulness and devotion; honesty and truthfulness. However loyalty should not be there merely for the sake of existence. When one falls out of love while in a relationship, some may define loyalty as still hanging on due to commitment and devotion. However is it being truthful or honest? Isn’t expressing the true feelings being loyal too? A obedient daughter not accepting the hand of her love in order to be loyal to her parents who oppose their matrimony; a sacrifice made out of loyalty. We the humans are experts in waiting till the last moment to make things right; wait until everything has gone wrong to realize the mistakes we have made.
All these things have become so complicated since we never realize that even the most beautiful days will eventually have its sunsets. In life we hesitate to make certain decisions but it’s always better late than never. Even the best things may not last forever. Things happen when we least expect them to be. How many of us are actually ready to accept these facts and be ready for what ever comes our way? How many of us stand strong and firm what ever garbage life throws at us and move on? Having a firm and strong mental status that stands even the severest test of fate is the key in making life, love, loss, loneliness and loyalty simple to deal with. The key is not lost. It’s there out in the open. We are just too blind to see it and too lazy to pick it up. Make the extra effort, pick it up and open the door to simplicity, contentment and happiness.
They say life is to live not to suffer. But how many of us live life without suffering? The desperate attempts we make to live life sometimes in return make us suffer brutally. Most of the time we are either in confusion or desperation that we do not see things clearly or think clearly. Our high expectations, ambitious goals and overconfidence trigger pain and suffering when things start falling apart. Some of us always believe everything will be the way we want and do not realize that every thing has two possible outcomes; favourable and unfavourable. We only anticipate the favourable outcome and when it is the unfavourable outcome that arrives we take a blow since we had not been ready for it. Then there is the type that lack confidence. When things continuously go wrong, we conclude that life is going to be in misery forever. The thought itself leads us to misery and we live each day suffering.
Love is a word connected with many other words; trust, understanding, friendship and happiness. How many of us gone through love without trust? Without understanding? Without friendship? Without happiness? Love is a wonderful thing that is unfortunately taken for granted by most of us. Love may not be able to move mountains but still it can generate certain changes in people. At most it can change a person’s entire life. My personal opinion is that love is not just about getting into a relationship, living with the person, having kids etc. Instead it’s about wanting the best for the other person. Sometimes we love those who don’t love us back. Sometimes we love those who we cannot have. Sometimes we find it hard to feel the same way about those who actually love us. One cannot force himself or herself to love someone. On the other hand it is said that love needs conscious commitment in order to sustain. But if it’s only commitment and no love, then is there anything to be sustained at all? What more explanation is needed to illustrate love’s complexity?
Along the path of life we gain things and we lose things. It’s easily said but not widely accepted. Many of us find it impossible to let go of the things we love; people we love. We try so hard to hold on even when we know for sure that we have lost it/them; let it be a break up, death of a loved one, loss of a lifeless property that meant so much to us.
We do not realize that even the most beautiful days eventually have their sunsets. Letting go is not easy but it’s not impossible. Most of us just don’t even give it a try. Sometimes we have to lose someone to get that someone. Sometimes we have to lose something to get that something. When we lose things only we realize how much they have meant to us. While they are there, we merely take them for granted and don’t realize how precious they are until we have let them slip through our fingers. Then at the last moment we struggle to hold on alas only to lose it even more. The more we try to stretch a rubber band the ultimate result will be that at one point it will break. You might tie up the two pieces but it will never be the same old strong band anymore. How many of us realize this before the band is broken?
Each of us is born alone and dies alone, but loneliness is something that we cannot come to terms with. Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that one is lonely. At times even when we are all alone we may not feel lonely. However there are times we feel lonely even when we are with a large crowd. The fear of loneliness could even become a mental illness if abnormal and persistent. Some of us have trouble distinguishing between independence and solitude. Loss and loneliness go hand in hand. Most of us who experience loss of something/someone experience loneliness afterwards. How many times have we thought everybody else has this or that but I don’t, everybody else does this or that but I can’t? All of us have experienced it not once or twice but many a times during our short life span.
Loyalty goes a long way with trust and commitment; faithfulness and devotion; honesty and truthfulness. However loyalty should not be there merely for the sake of existence. When one falls out of love while in a relationship, some may define loyalty as still hanging on due to commitment and devotion. However is it being truthful or honest? Isn’t expressing the true feelings being loyal too? A obedient daughter not accepting the hand of her love in order to be loyal to her parents who oppose their matrimony; a sacrifice made out of loyalty. We the humans are experts in waiting till the last moment to make things right; wait until everything has gone wrong to realize the mistakes we have made.
All these things have become so complicated since we never realize that even the most beautiful days will eventually have its sunsets. In life we hesitate to make certain decisions but it’s always better late than never. Even the best things may not last forever. Things happen when we least expect them to be. How many of us are actually ready to accept these facts and be ready for what ever comes our way? How many of us stand strong and firm what ever garbage life throws at us and move on? Having a firm and strong mental status that stands even the severest test of fate is the key in making life, love, loss, loneliness and loyalty simple to deal with. The key is not lost. It’s there out in the open. We are just too blind to see it and too lazy to pick it up. Make the extra effort, pick it up and open the door to simplicity, contentment and happiness.
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Thanks :)
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